Friday, October 21, 2011

ALZHEIMER'S--You don't have my man

A friend of mine, Carol Ann Hoel, is like many of my mother's friends. People who are watching the slow withdrawal of their spouse through the disease, Alzheimer's. This is what Carol Ann wrote on her blogsite

ALZHEIMER'S---You don't have my man. by Carol Ann Hoel

Hello in there – You seem not to hear -
Your countenance has changed so much -
Those baby blues seem vacant
Though I search them looking for you -
You look back at times – or do I imagine so –
Telling me you love me -
And you know I love you too –

Hello in there – I’m still waiting here –
A breath away from losing you
For a time – for a little time -
I won’t be afraid because I know
You’ll not slip away from me without
His call – Shall I regret -
Yes – I’ll grieve your absence here -

Alzheimer’s – you don’t have my man –
He’s where he’s always been -
Settled in his Savior’s care –
He’s still waiting there – taking a nap -
Snuggled in angels’ wings – wrapped in fervent prayer -
Cradled in the arms of Jesus –
Lingering a while longer with me –

By Carol Ann Hoel © October 15, 2011

Hebrews 13:5 – The Bible (KJV) - Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.____________________________________

I'd like to acknowledge and offer a word of comfort to famies affected by Alzheimer's disease. I know that not all Alzheimer's patients can be cared for at home. I saw a lot in five weeks at a care facility spending five to six hours a day in the midst of a variety of Alzheimer's patients. I watched compassionate caregivers treat combative, angry, fearful, and confused patients with kindness and respect. I saw many patients whose families would have not been able to provide care at home. I met some family members as they faithfully visited. My heart goes out to all who try to cope at home with a loved one struggling with Alzheimer's. Sometimes a care facility is necessary for the safety and well-being of the patient and family. I saw several cases that would have been impossible to manage at home. Blessings to family members and professional caregivers who lovingly care for the victims of this disease.

I have no reason to believe that my hubby is about to leave me to be with Jesus. I have no assurance that he will stay here longer either. One day he seems strong and healthy; the next he seems weak and distant. I'm not ready to let him go. I'm thankful he's here with me.

I'm getting better at being a 24-hour caregiver. I still have lots to learn, and I make mistakes.

Thank you all for your prayers and encouragement. Blessings to you all.


jel said...

that is a sad but beau~T~ful poem.

my Q? for you , is this.( if ya don't mind me asking?

after the poem , is it your or her that is the caregiver?


Christine Lindsay said...

Carol Ann Hoel is the caregiver to her husband. Check out her website to learn more about her story.

Elaine Stock said...

Carol, after seeing the 24-hour care & love my mother-in-law showered her Alzheimer's suffering husband, I can really admire your poem. Try to get some relief yourself so your energy isn't wiped away.

Carol J. Garvin said...

I saw this over at Carol Ann's blog. It's a difficult but necessary journey they share right now and I have them on my prayer list. My BFF's husband had AD, as did my father, so the writing she shares always brings back memories.

Carol Ann said...

Thank you for the good advice, Elaine.