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And now, OUTSHINING CANCER by Karen Ingalls
I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer in
June 2008. Since then I have had one major surgery, which involved a total
hysterectomy, colon resection, and
removal of my omentum, several lymph nodes, and a honeydew
melon sized tumor. I have had two recurrences and am currently in
chemotherapy.
When anyone hears the word cancer it creates fear, anxiety, and
sometimes panic.
This is true
no matter the language, culture, religion, or nationality. When I heard, I am sorry but the tumor was cancerous I
also immediately felt fear and thought my life was over. These feelings lasted
about two days, but as I asked questions, did research into ovarian cancer, and
turned my fear over to God then I began to see the cancer as one of several
challenges I have had to face.
I prefer to use the word challenge
because it does signify an opportunity to learn about or train, and to become a
better person who is stronger, wiser, and more adaptable. It is not about
winning or losing, but how I live with the challenge. Just as the athlete
trains for the competition, I see my training
as putting my body, mind, emotions, and spirit in optimum condition to live
with cancer. I have always been the health
nut of the family choosing to eat few red meats, little processed foods,
and lots of fruit and vegetables. I have always exercised or been involved in
yoga. Meditation or deep prayer has been a daily (or more) event.
I am a retired registered nurse who
specialized in holistic counseling in my private practice as a nurse therapist.
I offered the client therapeutic massage, healing touch, biofeedback in
addition to one on one counseling. I pursued these same modalities for myself
and after the diagnosis I added Qigong, Reiki, and nutritional advice.
Since I was a preteen I wrote short
stories, poems, and every night I wrote in my diary. I found this to be very
helpful in dealing with my alcoholic parents, untimely deaths, a parent’s
abandonment, and abuse from my stepfather. In the 1950’s there were no
programs, information, or sources for those of us who were being abused. It was
a family and social secret!
I
found I loved to write enjoying the creativity and escaping into my own
imagination. I never shared my writings with anyone for some fifty or more
years. I did not trust anyone to judge the value of my stories nor to share
intimate secrets about my family. Little did I know that someday writing would
help heal me and free me to use a God given talent with confidence and joy.
One of the positive things that came out
of my cancer diagnosis was the publication of my award winning book, Outshine: An Ovarian Cancer Memoir. This
is the story of my cancer journey which anyone who hears the words you have cancer will relate to. Cancer
is cancer is cancer. Even though our specific cancer might be different and
there may be some variations to our journeys, we do walk similar paths. It is
my hope that my ways of training or coping for this challenge will help others.
I also wrote the book Outshine to bring awareness about this
lesser known and too often deadly disease. Every female, no matter her age,
needs to know the symptoms and act on them immediately. Briefly, the most
common symptoms are:
*Bloating
*Abdominal or pelvic pain
*Indigestion or feeling full sooner than
normal
*Painful intercourse
*Changes in urination or bowel habits
*Extreme daily fatigue
*Abnormal vaginal discharge
If any one or more of these symptoms persist
for two weeks it is imperative to see a physician and demand a
transvaginal ultrasound and a blood test called a CA125. These tests are not expensive and they are all
we have at the present time to help diagnose ovarian cancer at an early stage.
Too often physicians do not consider
ovarian cancer initially when the patient presents with any or a couple of these
symptoms. It is important that the woman know and share her family history and
be proactive. Gilda Radner was sent from physician to physician until her
cancer was so advanced she died young. This still happens today. Physicians,
nurses, and every woman needs to know about ovarian cancer.
This cancer is not just for women over
60 years old. There have been diagnoses of preteens, teenagers, twenties,
thirties, and on up. Did you know that Olympic gymnast, Shannon Miller was
diagnosed at age 34, Gilda Radner was 42, Maureen Connolly the tennis champion
was 34? A teenager in Florida was diagnosed at the age of 18, a 7 year old, and
even an infant were diagnosed with a rare form of ovarian cancer.
I hope you will share this information
with everyone. It is only through knowledge and action that we can save the
14,000 lives that are lost every year just in the United States alone. Please
feel free to contact me at my website or email address which are listed below
if you have questions or require more information.
No matter if our challenge is related to
health, relationships, finances, abuse, addiction, or any other number of
events my holistic approach can be of help to the reader. I talk about such things
as meditation or deep prayer, exercise, diet, imagery, and laughter to name
just a few. I hope the reader will find the necessary ways to cope with the
stress or challenge in his or her life.
An Excerpt:
Chapter 3
Prayer and Love
It’s said that as tears flow out, love flows in.
I believe that to be
true. For the next two weeks, a lot of love
flowed in. Jim and I
sobbed until our throats and stomachs ached. The
week was painfully
difficult while we waited for answers; informed
our kids,
family, and friends; and made preparations for
surgery and recovery.
It was the start of a journey that would have us
enter hell and
then travel various peaks and valleys of hope,
fear, ministry, doubt,
prayer, and an ever-closer relationship with God
and each other.
I have always believed in God, even though I was
raised in
a home where there was no talk of God, Jesus, or
the Bible. We
never went to church, grace was only said when
my stepfather’s
family was at our house for a meal, Easter was
about the bunny
rabbit, and Christmas was about Santa Claus. My
grandmother,
Edith, was the one who taught me about God, all
religions, and
how Jesus was her Savior.
In my junior year of high school, the abuse had
escalated to
a point where I knew my life was in danger. I
left my mother’s
house in Long Beach, California, to live with my
dad and his
wife in Hollywood, California. Starting in my
preteen years, my
dad and I had become very close. He did not know
about the
abuse, because I was scared to tell him the
“secret.” The move
meant changing schools, making new friends, and
seeing very
little of my mother and two sisters. Both sets
of my grandparents
had always been very important to me, and now
they were even
more so. Both Dad and my grandparents provided
the stability,
strength, and spiritual and religious beliefs I
needed. It was an
ending and a beginning, frightening and safe,
confusing and
sane, nightmare and dream, sadness and
happiness. A classmate
invited me to the youth group at her church
every Wednesday
night.
So began my journey in truly knowing and
accepting
God into my life through Jesus the Christ. My
faith has never
stopped growing, and it was the foundation for
which I found
the strength and courage to face what lay ahead.
The time before my surgery gave Jim and me an
opportunity to
come to a new level of grief. We talked about
the power of prayer
and how our love could see us through anything.
Prayer and love
had already seen us through some difficult times
with family,
careers, and our own relationship.
We were overwhelmed, too, with the love and
support
we received from family and friends. Every
message in a card,
whether written by Hallmark or the sender,
touched my heart
and soul in a completely unexpected way. I
learned a lesson in
life that any birthday, sympathy, or get-well
card might be very
meaningful and powerful for the receiver.
Therefore, cards need
to be selected and sent with the ministry they
are intended to
have. Too many times in the past, I have sent
cards without
paying close attention to the words inscribed. I
gotta get this in
the mail, was my thought as I quickly selected a
card after barely
scanning the verse. That was not ministering to
others. Rather, it
was being too self-absorbed in my own busy-ness.
Being on the
receiving end of so many special cards opened my
eyes and heart.
As the days brought us closer to the surgery, I
learned that
friends are one of the most cherished gifts I
appreciate. One
morning, I joined my dear friend, Charlotte, for
a cup of coffee.
We had met twenty years ago when we worked
together in the
hospital’s epilepsy unit. Sharing the same
philosophy of life and
nursing, we quickly formed a deep friendship. We
talked about
my upcoming surgery and the unknown challenges
that lay
ahead of me. She helped me deeply explore and
discuss my true
fears.
“I think my greatest fear is for Jim,” I said.
“How will he be
if I die?” For over twenty years, we had lived
each day as if we
would live forever, though we had buried his
parents and said
goodbye to other relatives and friends. “Jim and
I have such a
close bond, it’s like we’re one. We’re best
friends, besides loving
each other so deeply and profoundly.”
Charlotte took my hand and said, “Jim is a
survivor. He’ll
go through his stages of grief and will miss you
terribly, but he’ll
survive just because of his love for you. He
knows that’s what you
would want.” After a few minutes she added,
“Besides, none of
us knows when we’re going to die. Just because
you might have
cancer does not mean you are automatically going
to die from it.”
In closing, cancer should not cause such fear
that it rules a person’s life. I choose to acknowledge that it is a part of
health, it is not me. I am greater than cancer; I will and do outshine cancer;
I choose to use this challenge to help other people facing any cancer.
I invite you to follow me on my blog, www.outshineovariancancer.blogspot.com, which is about health/wellness, relationships, and spirituality.
Karen Ingalls
Connect with Karen Ingalls
Other books
by Karen Ingalls are:
Novy’s Son http://www.amazon.com/dp/BO1BO2VQY
Davida: Model
& Mistress of Augustus Saint-Gaudens http://amazon.com/Davida-Model-Mistress-Augustus-Saint-Gaudens/dp
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